You fictionalize it. Use the story so it stops using you. Read “Heartburn” and see what Nora Ephron does with her shitty divorce. Especially the last chapter. That’s the way to conquer unhappy events.
"use the story so it stops using you"
i did the same thing for everyone i’ve slept with and i really want to post it but 1. it reveals the number of people i’ve slept with which is kind of absurd 2. it gets pretty depressing pretty quickly once i started fucking people i didn’t care about to numb myself/feel desired/etc.